Remember your 20something self?
That young woman who wanted to “suck out all the marrow of life” like Thoreau did in that Walden book she read in college? The one who knew she could do just about anything, and wouldn’t settle for less than soul-stirring and fabulous?
What the hell happened?
Well, instead of sucking out the marrow of life, life kinda went and sucked the marrow out of you, didn’t it?
Cause here you are: up to your eyeballs in responsibilities, expectations, and pressures, wishing you could remember who you were before all this stuff piled up. Before the career, and the kids, and multi-tasking (oh my).
Life might be OK – good even – but something’s not. quite. right. And you’re wishing there was some way you could re-capture the old feeling that the world was your oyster, and you could make anything of it you wanted.
I get it. I’ve been there.
I’m Deb Cooperman, and I know the unsettled craving you’re experiencing.
I know that the circumstances and challenges of having to be a grown up are only a fraction of the shit you’re up against. You’re also dealing with years of conditioning, societal expectations, influences from pop culture, social media, advertising, and a self-help industry that often plays into your deepest fears.
You’re more powerful than you know though. You might forget. You might be second-guessing yourself. You might be wondering if the road-not-taken would have made you happier, and worried that you might have to throw everything overboard in order to get back to the elemental you-ness you aren’t even sure is still there. It happens.
I’ve got something that can help.
But I should warn you: there’s no 3 step solution, no magic bullet, and no secret formula. Sorry, girlene. Growth and change can’t be prescribed. The unraveling, understanding, and micro-changes that add up to bigger changes have to come from you.
But I can help you reconnect to your powerful, inner superhero; help you uncover/rediscover what matters most to you (when so much about the world conspires to fit women into some kind of “acceptable” norm), and then start forging a path to create it.
I’m here to help you remember what it was like to rock out to Aretha’s Respect … and mean it.
To learn how we can work together, check out the work with me page.
If you’d like to join my email list, I’d love to have you on it. I know how so many of us are on email overload, so I won’t inundate you. Promise. You’ll get occasional inspirational missives, rants, and insider scoops on programs I’m offering. Pop your name and email address into the form below, and you’ll also get a copy of Write That Shit Down, my ebook designed to get you started with writing/journaling (you say tomato; i say tomahto) … or deepening your practice. It’s an amazing tool for unearthing insights, wrestling with challenges, and holding up a mirror to your life. (cause you’re not dicking around, right? might as well get started …)
About me …
I’m a writer, permission-giver, meaning-maker, ass-kicker, cheerleader, and all-round creative type. In my work, I create a safe and compassionate space for writers (and wanna-be writers) to get over the fear of having to be (and write) perfect(ly), get their stuff out on the page unapologetically, and then find a way to make more space for that in their lives.
I do this because I want to see women stop the knee-jerk habit of apologizing for every. fargin. thing.
I want them to:
- bust through perceived imperfections and “not good enough”s
- recognize the messages and expectations they’ve internalized
- shine a light on blind-spots and help them claim their strength, power and fabulosity
- live more mindfully, intentionally, and awesomely
I want women to unleash their fabulosity on the world…
Because I believe happy, powerful, kick-ass women send ripples out to people all around them, making a happier, stronger, more compassionate world. (cause y’know, i really do want world peace.)
Now … for the official-in-the-third-person-for-those-who-want-credentials bio:
Deb Cooperman is something of a “writing evangelist” – as a coach and workshop leader she inspires and encourages women to use a simple, portable, and completely affordable practice of writing to understand and expand their lives.
Women who are writing for personal growth, and as part of their work – including journalers, published writers, and people dreaming of publication – have found support and inspiration while participating in her groups, and in private coaching.
Deb has been keeping a journal since she was 11 years old. In those days her most fervent musings centered on whether Davy Jones or Paul McCartney was cuter, but now her writing practice is the glue that keeps her life together, and she gladly spreads the word about the power of a writing practice to just about anyone who will listen.
She trained and was certified (CPCC) by the Coaches Training Institute, and is also a graduate of their intensive Co-Active Leadership program. (CTI’s ICF-accredited certification program is one of the most rigorous and respected in the industry) (oh, aaand: she worked for CTI as their promotions director back in the late 90s.)
Deb has spoken/given workshops in corporations, for trade groups, community groups, non-profits, and conferences about using a writing practice for creativity and personal growth, creating Legacy Letters, embracing your one wild and precious life, and liberating your inner weirdo (no joke); she’s interviewed, and written articles about Jon Stewart, Allison Janney, and Dr. Ruth – among other writers, artist, and cultural icons; she has edited and/or contributed to multiple books (including an essay in the 2017 chicken soup for the soul – random acts of kindness book), and has written about the power of a writing practice for a number of popular on-line coaching blogs, including a regular column for Coaching Toys.
Her love letter/newsletter – with encouragement and inspiration for women on a personal growth path – has subscribers in North America, Asia, Australia, New Zealand, the UK, South America, Germany, Scotland and the Middle East.
She’s a graduate of Kenyon College (well known for turning out some amazing writers like laura hillenbrand [seabiscut], john green [the fault in our stars], bill waterson [calvin and hobbes], e.l. doctorow [ragtime], and paul newman [ok. i know he’s not a writer, but c’mon: paul newman!]).
Hear her talk journaling on the Jumpstart Your Joy podcast; and on the magic and value of a writing practice on Mel Hunt’s Perspectives on Practice interview series.
Read her Collective Care interview on Christy Tending’s Healing Arts blog.
20 random things (that are not credentials or businessy background info … )
- My manifesto-like playlist is as important as my business plan. Seriously. It includes Mama Cass, Cat Stevens, Dave Matthews Band, and Petula Clark – among many, many others … and when you work with me, there’s gonna be a playlist for that.
- I’ve made my home in such exotic places as Sydney, Australia; Berkeley, California; Brooklyn, New York, and 3 different towns in/around Princeton, New Jersey (where i grew up). I currently reside in the Beautiful Boonies: a loverly home on a hill overlooking a river in Hunterdon County New Jersey … about an hour from where I grew up, and 2 1/2 miles from my sis. (they write sitcoms about that, don’t they?)
- I have one tattoo. I got it spontaniously-ish two days before I moved back to the US after 3ish years living in Australia. It’s of the Southern Cross, which is a constellation you only see in the Southern hemisphere, and it’s represented on the Australian flag.
- I worked on several cruise ships in my early 20s. It was nothing like The Love Boat. (but i once had a love boat themed party during college, and my old shipboard uniform came in handy.)
- I used to manage press and public relations for professional theatres, and other non-profit arts organizations. Some super-famous actors, directors, and playwrights are part of my history (usually before they got super-famous.) (but don’t ask me about jean stapleton or the woman who played dr. beverly crusher on ‘star trek: the next generation’ unless you want an earful …) (but lauren graham? as cool as you’d probably imagine.)
- My ex-husband is one of my dearest friends, and we were included in a USA Today article about “good divorces.”
- If I didn’t do what I do now, I might want to be a photographer. I particularly like taking photos of people. Some of the best photos of my family and friends are shots I’ve taken. (she said, humbly …)
- Or a baker. I love to bake. I once sold my home-made fruit juice-sweetened muffins to a speciality bakery in Brooklyn (long before the hipster invasion) (which makes me kinda meta-hipster). My pecan pie, chocolate-mint brownies, and cheesecake are fargin epic.
- I read/performed an essay about my relationship with my mom – with particular focus on the last year of her life – as a member of New Jersey’s inaugural cast of the national Listen to Your Mother show. (you can see my reading here)
- Please, don’t call me Debbie unless you’re a relative, you knew me when we were in grade school, or you put “Uncle” in front of it (that’s a bit of a story for another time …).
- I have an ear for accents. This also means I’m a bit of a chameleon. When I hang out with friends from the south, I find myself slowin’ down mah speech and soundin’ a bit suuthern’ (ish). When moved back from Oz, my US friends said I sounded slightly Australian. (but to the aussies, i never sounded like anything but a yank …) This chameleon talent has also helped me avoid most New Jersey-like accent tendencies (… or so i’m told).
- I have been called Pollyanna … with the mouth of a truck-driver.
- I have a really keen sense of smell. The ex-hubster used to be amazed by how I could identify someone’s perfume from the other side of the room. “Couldn’t you make money with that nose?” he’d ask. Alas, if there was a way to make bucks with this schnoz, our paths have not crossed.
- I once interned with the late Letitia Baldrige – Jackie Kennedy’s former Social Secretary. I learned a lot from her. Mostly: kindness + attention = good etiquette.
- I am an ordained Rev through the Universal Life Church, and the church of Dudeism – if you abide. By the power vested in me, I’ve made it official for couples in churches, yards, a cabin in the woods, a beach, a museum, a zoo, and an island in the Caribbean. (want me to do yours? i love doing them; get in touch.)
- I was once the singer in a rock/blues trio. Once the bass player and I started dating it went all Fleetwood Mac. Should never have started dating; I really miss that band.
- I believe in Yoda and The Force. And Mr. Rogers.
- I have an almost scary memory for pop culture trivia … particularly bubble gum music of the 60s, 70s and early 80s.
- I have never seen an episode of Seinfeld. Sue me.
- I believe there are very few things that can’t be made better with bubbles, fairy lights, and sparklies. (aka: glitter)