Remember your 20something self?
That young woman who wanted to “suck out all the marrow of life” like Thoreau did in that Walden book she read in college? The one who knew she could do just about anything, and wouldn’t settle for less than soul-stirring and fabulous?
What the hell happened?
Well, instead of sucking out the marrow of life, life kinda went and sucked a lot of the marrow out of you, didn’t it?
Cause here you are: up to your eyeballs in responsibilities, expectations, and pressures, and wishing you could remember who you were before all this stuff piled up. Before the career, the kids, and multi-tasking (oh my).
Life might be OK – good even – but something’s not. quite. right.
I get it. I’ve been there.
I’m Deb Cooperman, and I know the unsettled craving you’re experiencing.
I know that the circumstances and challenges of having to be a grown up are only a fraction of the shit you’re up against in this longing you’re living with.
You’re also dealing with years of conditioning, societal expectations, influences from pop culture, social media, advertising, and a self-help industry that often plays into your deepest fears.
You’re more powerful than you know though. You might forget. You might be second-guessing yourself. You might be wondering if the road-not-taken would have made you happier, and worried that you might have to throw everything overboard in order to get back to the elemental you-ness you aren’t even sure is still there. It happens.
I’ve got something that can help.
But I should warn you: there’s no 3 step solution, no magic bullet, and no secret formula in the help I offer. Sorry, girlene. Growth and change can’t be prescribed. The unraveling, understanding, and micro-changes that add up to bigger changes have to come from you.
But I can help you reconnect to your powerful, inner superhero; help you uncover/rediscover what matters most to you (when so much about the world conspires to fit women into some kind of “acceptable” norm), and then start forging a path to create it.
I’m here to help you remember what it was like to rock out to Aretha’s Respect … and mean it.
To learn how we can work together, check out the work with me page.
If you’d like to join my email list, I’d love to have you on it. I know how so many of us are on email overload, so I won’t inundate you. Promise. You’ll get occasional inspirational missives, rants, and insider scoops on programs I’m offering. Pop your name and email address here, and you’ll also get a copy of Write That Shit Down, my ebook designed to get you started with writing/journaling (you say tomato; i say tomahto) … or deepening your practice. It’s an amazing tool for unearthing insights, wrestling with challenges, and holding up a mirror to your life. (cause you’re not dicking around, right? might as well get started …)
Deb Cooperman began keeping a journal when she was 11 years old. In those days her most fervent musings centered on whether Davy Jones or Paul McCartney was cuter, but today her writing practice is the glue that’s not only seen her through, but seen her thrive through a divorce that ended in friendship, an eating disorder that began in her teens, grief from the loss of her mother and dear friends, a solo cross-country move, career changes, and launching her own business. As a first-hand testimonial to this process, she gladly spreads the word about the power of a writing practice to just about anyone who will listen.
Deb is something of a “writing evangelist” – as a workshop leader, and founder of The Writer Babes, she inspires and encourages women to use the powerful, but simple practice of writing — simply putting pen to paper — to understand and expand their lives.
She does this because it’s the best tool she’s found for herself and for her clients to stop the all-too-common knee-jerk habit of apologizing for nearly everything in their lives; to bust through perceived imperfections and ‘not good enough’s; recognize the messages and expectations they’ve internalized; shine a light on blind-spots, and help them claim their strength, power, and fabulosity; live more mindfully, intentionally, and awesomely.
Women of all ages and all walks of life have found support and inspiration while participating in her in-person and online groups, workshops, and in private sessions.
“I want women to unleash their fabulosity on the world…because I believe happy, powerful, kick-ass women send ripples out to people all around them, making a happier, stronger, more compassionate world. And the best way I know how to make that happen is through the deceptively simple, but profound practice of putting pen to paper.”
Deb Cooperman was trained and was certified (CPCC) by the Coaches Training Institute, and is also a graduate of their intensive Co-Active Leadership program. (CTI’s ICF-accredited certification program is one of the most rigorous and respected in the industry) (oh, aaand: she worked for CTI as their promotions director back in the late 90s.)
Deb has spoken/given workshops in corporations, for trade groups, community groups, non-profits, and conferences about using a writing practice for creativity and personal growth, creating Legacy Letters, embracing your one wild and precious life, and liberating your inner weirdo. She’s interviewed, and written articles about Jon Stewart, Allison Janney, and Dr. Ruth – among other writers, artist, and cultural icons; she has edited and/or contributed to multiple books (including an essay in the 2017 chicken soup for the soul – random acts of kindness book), and has written about the power of a writing practice for a number of popular on-line coaching blogs.
DEB AS PODCAST GUEST
- On unraveling life’s conditioning and finding true joy through journaling on the Jumpstart Your Joy podcast …
- On discovering the magic and value of a writing practice on Lauri’s Lemonade Stand podcast …
- Thoughtful discussion about practice, imperfection, growth and so much more with Mel Hunt in her Perspectives on Practice interview series.
- Deb was also one of the top downloads in Paula Jenkins’ second season of Jumpstart Your Joy, and was featured in a season-end roundtable on finding inspiration and taking care of yourself during difficult times with other top download guests Kate Swoboda, Michelle Ward, Laura Simms, and Sarah von Bargen.
- And read her Collective Care interview on Christy Tending’s Healing Arts blog.
A random number of random things about moi (that are not credentials or businessy background info…)
- My manifesto-like playlist is as important as my business plan. Seriously. It includes Mama Cass, Cat Stevens, Dave Matthews Band, and Petula Clark – among many, many others … and when you work with me, there’s gonna be a playlist for that.
- I’ve made my home in such exotic places as Sydney, Australia; Berkeley, California; Brooklyn, New York, and 3 different towns in/around Princeton, New Jersey (where i grew up). I currently reside in the Beautiful Boonies: a loverly home on a hill overlooking a river in Hunterdon County New Jersey … about an hour from where I grew up, and 2 1/2 miles from my sis. (they write sitcoms about that, don’t they?)
- I used to manage press and public relations for professional theatres and other non-profit arts organizations. Some super-famous actors, directors, playwrights, set designers, etc. are part of my history (usually before they got super-famous.) (yeah, i’ve got stories. don’t ask me about jean stapleton or the woman who played dr. beverly crusher on ‘star trek: the next generation’ unless you want an earful. but lauren graham? as cool as you’d probably imagine.)
- I worked on several cruise ships in my early 20s. It was nothing like The Love Boat. (but i once had a love boat themed party during college, and my old shipboard uniform came in handy.)
- I read/performed an essay about my relationship with my mom – with particular focus on the last year of her life – as a member of New Jersey’s inaugural cast of the national Listen to Your Mother show. (you can see my reading here)
- My ex-husband is one of my dearest friends, and we were included in a USA Today article about “good divorces.”
- If I didn’t do what I do now, I might want to be a photographer. I particularly like taking photos of people. Some of the best photos of my family and friends are shots I’ve taken. (she said, humbly …)
- Or maybe a baker. I love to bake. I once sold my home-made fruit juice-sweetened muffins to a speciality bakery in Brooklyn (long before the hipster invasion) (which makes me kinda meta-hipster). My pecan pie, chocolate-mint brownies, and cheesecake are fargin epic.
- Please, don’t call me Debbie unless you’re a relative, you knew me when we were in grade school, or you put “Uncle” in front of it (that’s a bit of a story for another time …).
- I have an ear for accents. This also means I’m a bit of a chameleon. When I hang out with friends from the south, I find myself slowin’ down mah speech and soundin’ a bit suuthern’ (ish). When moved back from Oz, my US friends said I sounded slightly Australian. (but to the aussies, i never sounded like anything but a yank …) This chameleon-like talent has also helped me avoid most New Jersey-like accent tendencies (… or so i’m told).
- I have been called Pollyanna … with the mouth of a truck-driver.
- I am an ordained Rev through the Universal Life Church, and the church of Dudeism – if you abide. By the power vested in me, I’ve made it official for couples in churches, yards, a cabin in the woods, a beach, a museum, a zoo, and an island in the Caribbean. (want me to do yours? i love doing them; get in touch.)
- I once interned with the late Letitia Baldrige – Jackie Kennedy’s former Social Secretary. I learned a lot from her. Mostly: kindness + attention = good etiquette.
- I believe in Yoda and The Force. And Mr. Rogers.
- I have an almost scary memory for pop culture trivia … particularly bubble gum music of the 60s, 70s and early 80s.
- I have never seen an episode of Seinfeld. Sue me.
- I believe there are very few things that can’t be made better with bubbles, fairy lights, and sparklies. (aka: glitter)