Remember your 20something self?

That young woman who wanted to “suck out all the marrow of life” like Thoreau did in that Walden book she read in college? The one who knew she could do just about anything, and wouldn’t settle for less than soul-stirring and fabulous?

Yeah, her.

What the hell happened?

Well, instead of sucking out the marrow of life, life kinda went and sucked the marrow out of you, didn’t it?

Cause here you are: up to your eyeballs in shifting relationships, horizons, and hormones, and you’re wishing you could remember who you were before all these responsibilities and expectations piled up. Before the jobs and the tax deductions and the kids and the relationships and the aging parents. You’re wishing you could re-capture the old feeling that the world was your oyster, and you could make anything of it you wanted.

I get it. I’ve been there.

I’m Deb Cooperman, and I help women navigate the wild waters of this big-time turning-point and help them rediscover, recalibrate, and reclaim their awesomeness; the stuff that got pushed to the side by all the responsibility and challenges of being a grown up.

I help them reconnect to what matters most to them (when so much about the world conspires to fit women into some kind of “acceptable” norm), and forge a path to create it.

I help them remember what it was like to rock out to Joan Jett’s Bad Reputation, and Aretha’s Respect … and mean it. 

I help women stop dicking around, dig in, and rediscover themselves amidst the the chaos, craziness, and celebrations that are part of this rollercoaster called life.

To learn how we can work together, check out the work with me page.

If you want to join my email list, you’ll get occasional inspirational missives, rants, and insider scoops on programs I’m offering. Pop your name and email address into the form below and you’ll get a copy of Write That Shit Down,  my ebook that’ll get you started with journaling (or deepening your journaling practice). Journaling’s just about my favorite tool for unearthing insights, wrestling with challenges, and holding up a mirror to your life. (and if you wind up working with me, you’re gonna be doing a lot of that, so y’might as well get started, huh?)

About Deb (all official-like, in the third person…) for those who want credentials: 

Deb trained and was certified (CPCC) by the Coaches Training Institute, and is also a graduate of their intensive Co-Active Leadership program.(CTI’s ICF-accredited certification program is one of the most rigorous and respected in the industry) (oh, aaand: she worked for CTI as their promotions director back in the late 90s.)

Deb has spoken/given workshops in corporations, for trade groups, community groups, non-profits, and conferences about using a writing practice for creativity and personal growth, creating Legacy Letters, embracing your one wild and precious life in midlife, and liberating your inner weirdo; she’s interviewed, and written articles about Jon Stewart, Allison Janney, and Dr. Ruth – among other writers, artist, and cultural icons; she has edited and/or contributed to multiple books (including an essay in the 2017 chicken soup for the soul – random acts of kindness book), and has written about the power of a writing practice (aka journaling) for a number of popular on-line coaching blogs, including a regular column for Coaching Toys. Her love letter/newsletter – with encouragement and inspiration for midlife women on a personal growth path – has subscribers in North America, Asia, Australia, New Zealand, the UK, South America, Germany, Scotland and the Middle East. She’s a graduate of Kenyon College (well known for turning out some amazing writers like laura hillenbrand [seabiscut], john green [the fault in our stars], bill waterson [calvin and hobbes], e.l. doctorow [ragtime], and paul newman [ok. i know he’s not a writer, but c’mon: paul newman!]).

Otherwise interesting schtuff (that’s not credentials or businessy background info … )

  • My manifesto-like playlist is as important as my business plan. Seriously. It includes Mama Cass, Cat Stevens, Dave Matthews Band, and Petula Clark – among many, many others … and when you work with me, there’s gonna be a playlist for that.
  • I’ve made my home in such exotic places as Sydney Australia, Berkeley California, Brooklyn New York and 3 different towns in/around Princeton, New Jersey (where i grew up). I currently reside in the Beautiful Boonies: a loverly home on a hill overlooking a river in Hunterdon County New Jersey … about an hour from where I grew up, and 2 1/2 miles from my sis. (they write sitcoms about that, don’t they?)
  • I worked on several cruise ships in my early 20s. It was nothing like The Love Boat. (but i once had a love boat themed party during college, and my old shipboard uniform came in handy.)
  • I used to manage press and public relations for professional theatres, and other non-profit arts organizations (don’t ask me about jean stapleton or the woman who played dr. beverly crusher on ‘star trek: the next generation’ unless you want an earful …). (but lauren graham? as cool as you probably imagine.) 
  • My ex-husband is one of my best friends, and we were included in a USA Today article about “good divorces.”  
  • If I didn’t do what I do now, I might want to be a photographer. I particularly like taking photos of people. Some of the best photos of my family and friends are shots I’ve taken. (she said, humbly …)
  • I once sold my home-made fruit juice-sweetened muffins to a speciality bakery in Brooklyn (long before the hipster invasion) (which makes me kinda meta-hipster).
  • I read/performed one of my essays as a member of New Jersey’s inaugural cast of the national Listen to Your Mother show. (you can see my reading here)
  • Please, don’t call me Debbie unless you’re a relative, you knew me when we were in grade school, or you put “Uncle” in front of it (that’s a bit of a story for another time …).
  • I am an ordained Rev through the Universal Life Church, and the church of Dudeism – if you abide. By the power vested in me, I’ve made it official for couples in churches, yards, a cabin in the woods, a beach, a museum, a zoo, and an island in the Caribbean. (want me to do yours? i love doing them; get in touch.)
  • I believe in Yoda and The Force. And Mr. Rogers.
  • I have been called Pollyanna … with the mouth of a truck-driver.
  • I have never seen an episode of Seinfeld. Sue me.
  • I believe there are very few things that can’t be made better with bubbles, fairy lights, and sparklies(aka: glitter)