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another go ’round the sun

The last day of the year. And how are you spending it?

Are you a resolution person? Do you reflect, set intentions, or have a ritual to mark the end of the year?

Do you go to a New Years Eve party, or watch whatever television-something that has replaced Dick Clark and the ball dropping thingie? (i never got that: standing around in times square – where it’s probably bloody freezing – or sitting on the couch to watch a huge metal ball lit up by loads of light bulbs drop a few feet.) (and really, it doesn’t even drop; it slooowlly inches down a track where it says 2012 at the top, and when it falls, the 2 changes to a 3. oh, the excitement!) (… but i digress.)

The older I get, the more mixed I feel about the significance (or lack of it) around the changing of the year. Does magic happen when the clock strikes twelve on December 31st? Do we get a clean slate? More energy? Forgiveness?

We don’t. It’s just another day … with no greater power to grant renewal than any other.

But we forget that, of course. In the process of managing the details of our lives, it’s easy to get distracted (not that i would know anything about that … [see dick clark/ball drop musing above …]). So maybe because of all these distractions in our lives, we embrace the opportunity to reflect, and use whatever collective energy is swirling around for change and improvement. I know I do.

While I don’t believe there’s magic, I do like to take time to think about the coming year; from big-picture visioning and dreaming, to nitty-gritty details around my work, to personal self-care type stuff. 

So … to start off this next go ’round the sun, I decided to dip back into a little something I wrote a few years ago at the turning of the year. Same as it ever was, though so much has changed. As it does. 

On the turning of the year

Days go by, we meet people, we buy groceries. We work, we sleep, we eat, we drink coffee, we wish for more, we strive to do better. We wonder why some things are so damn hard; other times we think about people who are really suffering and struggling, and we feel lucky, soft and grateful.  And we are grateful.

And sometimes we still forget.

We wish we’d said something when we had the chance, other times we wish we hadn’t said it when we did. People get sick, and people get well; some don’t. Fear is sold on the news and there is plenty to go around. There is also magic and beauty to go around. And sometimes we forget.

We do laundry, we hang out with  family and friends, we move and we procrastinate. We can’t get that stupid song out of our head. We triumph, we fail, we let people go. We rise to challenges and we hide our heads in the sand. We get the mail, we pay the bills, we bitch about the price of gas. We dream, we stretch, we take out the garbage, check email, laugh and cry. We hug the people we love.

Deadlines loom, deadlines pass, and new ones grow in their place. We come home at the end of a long day and get into comfy clothes, light candles, listen to music, and have a glass of wine. We wrestle our demons, we wrestle each other. (sometimes that wrestling stuff is fun.)

We choose, we second guess, we choose some more, we plow forward hopefully. We move with purpose, we hesitate, we adjust, we plow forward some more, we fall down and get up. We dance with the unknown even if we don’t ever think about it.

Tomorrow the calendar flips to a new number, but nothing else is really different. It’s another new day; a chance to choose, to dream anew, to take bold steps, to shine on. There’s much to celebrate: it’s the same complicated, challenging, magic and beautiful world … and never the same river twice.
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Happy New moment, new day, and new year, friends. Thanks for dropping by, and thanks for participating – whether by reading my schtuff, coming to my in-person workshops, working with me one-on-one, emailing, following me on Twitter, or commenting on the Facebook page.

And yes, “more please” too.

“More please” of each one of you.

“More please” of your awesome, “more please” of your vulnerability, your bravery, your living full-out.

With much love, thanks, and lots more “more please.”

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  • Eileen Z. Wolter
    December 31, 2012 at 7:10 pm

    Here’s to us and those like us.
    Cheers and keep up the work and inspiration.

    • Deb Cooperman
      December 31, 2012 at 8:44 pm

      Thanks, Eileen. Virtual hugs comin’ your way.

  • Emma
    January 1, 2013 at 2:08 pm

    Ahhh! I loved this, Deb! Beautiful and encouraging! I love to “fresh start” every month, every week, but a new year feels more exciting- maybe because the whole world is caught up on the hope and energy of a new start.
    Hope this next series of moments brings you more and more of what and who you love!

    • Deb Cooperman
      January 1, 2013 at 2:16 pm

      Thanks for stopping by, Ms. Awesome. 🙂

      I agree (“because the whole world is caught up on the hope and energy of a new start”), and that’s probably why I always dive in too. While I work a variation on that theme with my journaling, it’s hard to resist the collective energy around paying attention, sinking deeper, and sifting through ones life. Here’s to more and more of what and who you love too m’dear. xo

  • JTM
    January 1, 2013 at 8:29 pm

    “We dance with the unknown even if we don’t ever think about it.”


    I love the whole flow of what you wrote, so graceful and elegant, each word moving with the next to create a rhythm and purpose, to lead us to this: “never the same river twice.”

    So very beautiful. Thank you and more please.

    I’ll bet that felt wonderful.

    • Deb Cooperman
      January 2, 2013 at 3:14 pm

      Thanks, honey. Glad you’re part of the dance I’m in. xo

  • Mel
    January 7, 2013 at 12:53 pm

    This is such a lovely piece Deb. I would quote some tiny bit of it, but I honestly loved the whole thing. Thank you for sharing, I am so glad that you re-posted it, as I am new to you.

    • Deb Cooperman
      January 7, 2013 at 2:41 pm

      Thanks so much for dropping by, Mel. And thanks for the nice feedback. (opens/warms the heart, big-time)

      (wondering how you found me …) (and now i must go “visit” you on-line. ‘see you’ there …)

      • Mel
        January 7, 2013 at 2:43 pm

        The clubhouse 🙂 You are incredibly kind and supportive there.

        • Deb Cooperman
          January 7, 2013 at 2:56 pm

          Oh yay; a fellow clubhouser. Thanks so much for those sweet words; you’ve made my day.