Women often tell me they don’t start writing because they’re afraid of what they’ll uncover when they do.
If they see the truth in their own handwriting, they might have to stop kvetching about the job and make a change. Maybe they’ll have to leave the relationship, quit drinking, clean up the wreckage of an old friendship. Maybe they’ll remember painful things they’ve been keeping underground for so long they’ve almost forgotten that they were buried.
But here’s the thing: just because something is on the page doesn’t mean you have to act right away. Even though it’s on the page, you don’t have to do a damn thing with it if you don’t want to.
Because you’ve just admitted something to yourself. You’ve remembered something you’ve been hiding from. It might be scary. It might be hard to get used to. But believe me, it’s GOOD. Because you can work with the truth.
If you’ve been keeping this stuff from yourself for a while, you might have to get used to it. You can write about why it scared you to let this truth surface. Write about what you’ve made up that this realization might mean. Do you think you have to throw off everything in your life now that you know this new truth?
Hell no, girlene!
Change takes time. You don’t have have a realization and then: “ta-da!” :: change! It unfolds; the steps reveal themselves. And just because you figured something out on the page doesn’t mean it has to get on your to-do list. right. Now.
Keep writing through it though. The answer(s) will come in time if you stay with it. You’ll take a step, reassess, adjust, course correct.
There’s no rush. Start writing. Keep writing. Write through it.