A four week online circle for women
The inaugural session starts September 2018
September 4 – 28 – with group calls on Wednesdays from 7:30 – 9pm ET (check your time zone here)
Learn the simple practice of putting pen to page to help you learn who you are. To excise old hurts, release habits that no longer serve you, tame negative thoughts, gain perspective, exercise your self-compassion muscle, and find flow in your work, relationships, and health.
Already writing? Discover new ways to deepen and energize it to make it your go-to support practice in life.
You’ve probably heard that writing for a few minutes every day (or even every now and then) can help you connect with yourself; expand your creative muscles, regain confidence, and improve the quality of your life in so many ways.
But as simple as it may seem – just get a pen and some paper and start writing, right? – it can be hard for some people to get started – and keep at it – in order to create an effective transformational writing practice.
So hard, it turns out, that many don’t even start.
That’s where I come in.
I’ve developed Unwritten to help women make the best of this use-anywhere practice that is a profound addition to any examined life.
With Unwritten …
… you’ll have permission, space, and time to stretch, discover, and grow. You’ll start to cut through all the waxy build-up of your life and get back down to your beautiful shine (yes, I did just reference an old Pledge commercial). You’ll begin releasing the things that are holding you back and no longer serving you, so you can reclaim your awesomeness.
So … What IS it?
Unwritten is based on a group process I created over 15 years ago – one that I’ve been offering ever since.
With structure – and lots of room for freedom – you’ll learn how to get going; how to keep going, and how to bust through blocks when they show up. (You’ll also learn how your writing blocks are a lot like some of the other blocks in your life. And you’ll see how writing can help you bust those too.)
You’ll have the time and space to start using this writing practice to explore your life in a whole new way. It’s an invitation to discovery; an invitation to you. All with boatloads of support, encouragement, and community – and led by me: a practicing writer who brings soul, reverence, and lightness to this sacred work.
Through 4 weeks of lessons, calls, creative prompts, and simple, effective techniques, you’ll learn how to make the most of this practice, and begin to make it your own.
We’ll have one 90-minute call each week during our time together.
The calls are a place to connect in real-time with your fellow participants and me – your glitter-filled Yoda/pop-culture-quoting master of ceremonies.
You’ll learn tools, and various ways in to your writing practice. You’ll get to practice the practice while we’re together, and ask questions after. It’s also a time to deepen the work and the connections you’ll be making in our Facebook group (more on that below).
The program will run three times a year. This first run will be at a very affordable one-time-only price of $97; expect it to go up the next time it’s offered. (In other words: if you like a bargain, sign up to get on my e-musings list, so you can snag your spot to this first round.)
Calls will be recorded, so if you can’t join us live for all the calls, you can always catch up with the lessons and conversations at your leisure. (And, the calls aren’t the only place to connect … see below.) 🙂
We’ll gather to create a supportive, intimate, online community in a private Facebook group, where a lot of digging in will happen. There, we’ll go over your weekly lessons, write from prompts, and get bits of inspiration and/or weekly challenges. Do the exercises that call to you, and share your experience in the group (or not). It’s totally up to you.
The group is a place for you to share insights, ask questions, bounce ideas off each other, and cheer each other on. I’ll be super-active in the group, offering encouragement, support, various pop-up exercises, insights, and challenges. There will also be two sessions of online “office hours” during the program where you can catch me in real-time to ask questions about your practice.
I’m Deb Cooperman, and in my over 15 years facilitating programs and workshops, I’ve helped hundreds of women befriend themselves with a writing practice.
Because I know that the longings you’re living with can sometimes feel like impossible dreams, and I know that a writing practice can help with all the things you’re up against. It can help you begin to break through years of conditioning, societal expectations, influences from the workplace, pop culture, social media, and advertising … and a diet-culture and a self-help industry that often play into your deepest fears.
I’ll help you bust through blocks, energize out of inertia, and make mincemeat out of the internal voices that say:”can’t,” don’t,” “not good enough,” and “you shouldn’t.” Be ready for my personal brand of soulful kickassedness, humor, and fierce support. And lots of fabulous pop music references from the days of cassette tapes, albums, and 45s.
When you sign up for the program, you can also snag one hour of private mentoring/conversation with me for 30% off my usual price: just $97.
While you’ll be able ask questions in the Facebook group and on our group calls, if you’d like guaranteed 100% focused, individualized attention and support, you might want to add a 1-on-1 session with me. With this time I’ll address questions or issues that have come up for you, and I’ll create personalized prompts for you to work with so you can dig deeper on some issues you’re focusing on. You can use your hour in either one full session, or break that time up into two half-hour calls.
This time can be used at any point during the Unwritten program, or up to a month after we wrap up.
AFTER THE PROGRAM
I know that 4 weeks isn’t a long time, and you may only be scratching the surface during our time together. But don’t worry: I won’t leave you hanging. Once this foundational program is over, you’ll be able to join all future Unwritten programs like Dear Future Me; Body Stories; Letting Go; Grief; In this Picture (a memory project), Legacy Letters, and more – as well as in-person workshops and retreats.
are you ready?
ARE YOU READY?
BE THE FIRST TO KNOW WHEN REGISTRATION OPENS.
Registration opens in July, and early registrants will get an in-the-mail bonus full of writing practice goodies.
Don’t sweat it. You can do it, even if you think you can’t.
The method we use in Unwritten has been helping woman use this magical tactic for getting to the heart of their lives for over 15 years.
With Unwritten, you start right where you are. With gentle exercises and fierce support, you’ll write your way through the fear, the judgement, the comparisons, and all the big and little things that are stopping you.
In all of my workshops, women who were blocked, afraid, self-conscious, and terrified have unblocked, gotten brave, tossed out the apologies, and stood stronger – sometimes after just one session. This isn’t about grammar, spelling, trying to impress others with your fabulous prose, or writing for publication – it’s about conversations with yourself; it’s about exploration and understanding, and there’s no need to pretty it up and load expectation on top of expectation.
Seriously, I’ve got you covered. You can do it; I’ve yet to meet a woman who hasn’t been able to get flowing with this process.
You can share your writing in the group – or not. The choice is up you.
Participants are taught a set of guidelines that I’ve honed since I began teaching. They’re designed to ensure that everyone feels safe, comfortable, and encouraged, and that their writing/sharing is witnessed with respect and compassion.
So again, you don’t have to share your writing, and there will be no pressure to do so.
But I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ll want to at some point.
Here’s the thing: it can, and it probably will. But not directly.
Unwritten is about process, not product.
If we were about product, then the product would be you – your heart, spirit, sass, energy, and direction.
But that’s probably not what you were thinking.
If you are looking for accountability and support to get the next couple chapters of your book done, or you’re looking to produce some solid web content, this isn’t the program for you.
(I’d be happy to talk to you about doing some of that one-on-one though. If you have any question, get in touch: deb [at] debcooperman [dot] com.)
If you think self care, personal growth, and your overall well-being and well-roundedness are an essential part of being a strong, balanced business owner, then, yeah, it totally can help.
But if you’re looking for a program that will help you outline your blog content for the next six months, get your book proposal written, or map out your next launch sequence, then, nope, it ain’t Unwritten. (No, no, no, it ain’t Unwritten babe. this ain’t the Writer Babe you’re looking for, babe.) (couldn’t resist.) (there’s a song for everything …)
Well, on the official qualifications side: I’m a professionally trained and certified coach, so there’s that. But I know there are a lot of coaches out there, so, you might be thinking: Big fargin deal.
I get it.
I don’t usually lead with the coaching stuff, because – even though my coaching skills inform the work that I do, it’s not what I do.
What I do is different. I teach a practice, and I practice what I teach.
Because I’ve walked in shoes that are probably very similar to yours. I’ve questioned choices, made big life changes, and bravely stepped into the unknown (many, many times. I left a marriage; moved across the country because I’d always wanted to; planned and prepped for my business while working a demanding “day job” to name a few…).
I’ve know that writing is an incredibly valuable tool for all of this. I’ve worked with loads of women who have learned the value too. Women who have peeled layer after layer of old stories and beliefs that have been weighing them down for too. damn. long. Women who don’t want to find themselves 5 years on saying: “if only” … and “what if?”
I want to show you that you can have that too.
I want you to get – really get in your bones – that what you want matters. That your light should not be dimmed. And I really (really, really) want you to get out there and unapologetically live your one wild and precious life … cause it’s the only one you’ve got.
And I’ve found that one of the most profound ways to be in that process of discovery is through a writing practice.
Want to know more about me? You can read the bio here on the website, or come check out my stuff on Instagram to get a better idea about who I am and what moves and motivates me.
You can totally do the program if you can’t make the calls.
AND, the calls are going to be awesome, so if there’s any way to get there for them, do.
They’re going to be a place for you to connect in real-time with me, and your fellow participants. I’ll share weekly lessons there; we’ll dig deeper into conversations that are simmering in the Facebook group, and we’ll lend each other support and encouragement. That’s pretty damn fab.
However, if you can’t make the calls at all (like: you live in london and you’ll be asleep when we meet), but the idea of joining this program resonates with you, please don’t let the fact that you won’t be able to be live on the calls stop you. You can get a LOT out of the work without being on the calls. I’ll be sharing notes of the lesson aspects of the calls, and I’ll be recording them too, so you can catch up on what you missed by listening in after. And, if you want to add something/ask a question/get clarification on what you heard on a call, bring it to the community online.
If you’re read this, and you’re still unsure about whether it will work for you or not … shoot me an email and we’ll hop on the phone for a quick chat. deb [at] debcooperman [dot] com.
If you’re doing therapy, a writing practice can be a HUGE help in moving that work forward. And while Unwritten and my other programs are definitely not therapy, they can be hugely therapeutic. You’ll gain all sorts of new perspectives about yourself, and it’s likely you’ll expand your compassion and inner strength muscles too. (No kidding. It’s really kinda magic like that.)
But again: not therapy.
It would be wise to tell your therapist that you’re starting to explore writing practice, and you may want to share some of the insights you’re getting through your work in the program. But rather than conflict with it, this practice can be a great support for what you’re doing in therapy.
Want some back-up on that? Check out these articles …
If you’re nervous that someone might find and read your stuff, you can take that as an opportunity to discuss privacy issues with the people in question.
If that’s not feasible for some reason*, you could put your writing it in a sealed box, take photos of it on your phone and store it in a password protected vault, or buy an inexpensive locker to keep in the back of your closet, basement, attic, or somewhere else that feels safe. If you’re not writing by hand (although I really encourage you to do it that way, cause there’s really something magical about that), there are a number of ways to password protect your writing online or right on your computer. (Here’s a great article from Lifehacker with a few suggestions.)
*… and if you don’t trust the people you surround yourself with to respect your privacy, that might be something to look into, don’t you think?
I’ve put a LOT of thought, heart, and energy into my work because I want my peeps to get mega-value from it.
However, if you came to the first call, and participated in the exercises in the FB group during the first week, and the program isn’t what you thought it would be, drop me a line before midnight ET of the 9th day of the program – and I’ll refund your money, less a $20 admin fee.
Not a fan of the book ‘o’ face? I get it. While there are a number of virtual community platforms out there, after surveying of some women in my community, it seems that Facebook is the place where most of them gather, so that’s where we’ll be – at least for now.
If you want to be part of the Facebook group, you’ll need a computer, tablet, or smart phone (see the FAQ: ‘Do I need to be on Facebook to participate?’ for more on that). Our calls will be on a video conference system, which you can join via smart phone, tablet, or computer.
You can also connect via phone, but your ability to interact on the calls will be impacted because you won’t be able to participate in the chat-box that takes place through the video platform. So if you can connect via video, your experience will be better. (If you’re self-conscious about writing while “on camera,” you can turn the camera off while you write; fyi.)
This depends on how deeply you want to dive in with the work, and yourself.
A big part of writing practice is about making yourself a priority – putting yourself at the top of your to-do list – and you want to do that don’t you? I mean, this is it; this is life – the one you get* … so finding some time every day is ideal. 20 minutes is great. More? Bonus.
Having said that, there have been women in past programs who’ve said that the only time they wrote was on our calls, and they still got value. So, even if the only time you manage to pick up a pen is on our calls, you’ll still experience the magic of the practice. (And I’ll bet you’ll want more…)
(Yes, I did just quote the One Day at a Time theme song.)
as you wish
Want more individualized attention than a group program provides, check out my current one-on-one offering here.