Stay tuned for the inaugural session of
Unwritten – foundations for a lifelong writing practice.
Learn how to use the simple practice of putting pen to page can help you understand and expand your life.
Already have a writing practice? Discover new ways to deepen it, and energize it as the go-to support practice in your life.
Want to figure out what that “something more” feeling is that’s been calling you?
Ready to devote some time to that exploration?
Unwritten can get you on your way …
A four week online coaching circle for women
The next session starts this winter
Do you ever feel like the life you dreamed of – the stuff you strove for for so long – isn’t quite the life you want anymore … but you’re not sure what IS?
Are you constantly quoting The Talking Heads? (y’know: Well … how did I get here?)
Feeling a low-grade funk, even though you can’t think of anything really wrong in your life?
Are you aching for something (anything) to help you feel more … well, anything?
I’ve been there. I get it.
Let’s move past that feeling of drift and fog by slowing down and honing in on the questions that are constantly swirling in your head like: “How did I get here?” “Who IS that woman in the mirror?” and “What now?” Time to turn that beat around, ladies; life is short. Time to live with purpose … without apology.
This is where you start.
Unwritten is a place where you’ll have permission to stretch, discover, and grow. You’ll start to cut through all the waxy build-up of your life and get back down to your beautiful shine (yes, I did just reference an old pledge commercial). You’ll begin releasing the things that are holding you back and no longer serving you, so you can reclaim your awesomeness.
So … What IS this Unwritten thing?
Unwritten is based on a group process I created over 15 years ago, and I’ve been offering it person ever since. I wanted to be able to connect a wider, more diverse group of women, so it seemed like it was time to bring it online.
With structure – and lots of room for freedom – you’ll have the time and space to begin using a writing practice to explore your life, and develop organic steps to make changes. All with boatloads of support, encouragement, and community … with an ass-kicking fearless leader who’s a fierce champion of women … and powered by pop-culture and glitter.
We’ll have four 80-minute calls during our four weeks together.
The calls are a place where you can connect in real-time with your fellow participants and me – your glitter-filled Yoda and pop culture quoting master of ceremonies. You’ll learn the tools, guidelines, and various “ways in” to your writing practice. It’s also a time to deepen the work we’ll be doing in our Facebook group (more on that below).
The program will run three times a year. The first run will be at a very affordable price; expect it to go up for round 2. (so, if you like a bargain … sign up to get on the list, so you can snag your spot early.)
Calls will be recorded, so if you can’t join us live, you can always catch up with the conversation and listen at your leisure.
We’ll gather to create a supportive, intimate, online community in a private Facebook group, where most of the real digging in will happen. There, we’ll go over your weekly lessons, write from prompts, and get bits of inspiration and/or weekly challenges. Do the exercises that call to you, and share your experience in the group (or not). It’s totally up to you.
We’ll share insights, ask questions, bounce ideas off each other, and cheer each other on. I’ll be super-active in the group, offering encouragement, support, two online open-houses during the program, various pop-up exercises, insights, and challenges. (And maybe dance parties. I’m thinkin’ there might also be virtual dance parties.)
I’m Deb Cooperman, and in my over 15 years coaching, facilitating workshops, and supporting women, I know that the unsettled craving you’re experiencing is only a fraction of what you’re up against. You’re also dealing with years of conditioning, societal expectations, influences from the workplace, pop culture, social media, and advertising … and a self-help industry that often plays into your deepest fears.
I’ll help you bust through blocks, energize out of inertia, and kick the ass of the internal voices that say:”can’t,” don’t,” “not good enough,” and “you shouldn’t.” Be ready for my personal brand of kickassedness, humor, and fierce support. And lots of fabulous pop music references from the days of albums and 45s.
When you sign up for the group, you can also snag one hour of private mentoring/conversation with me for 30% off my usual price: just $97.
While you’ll be able ask questions in the Facebook group and on group calls, if you’d like some 100% focused, individualized attention and support, you might want to add on an hour of 1-on-1 time. We’ll have time to go deeper with any questions or issues that have come up for you. You can do that in a one hour session, or break it up in two half-hour calls.
This time can be used during the Unwritten program, or up to a month after we wrap up.
are you ready?
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Don’t sweat it. You can do it, even if you think you can’t.
Unwritten, and The Writer Babe methods have been helping woman use this magical tactic for getting to the heart of longing, frustration, and power for over 15 years.
With Unwritten and The Writer Babes, you start right where you are. With gentle exercises and fierce support, you’ll write your way through the fear, the judgement, the comparisons, and all the big and little things that are stopping you.
In both the Unwritten and Writer Babe workshops, women who were blocked, afraid, self-conscious, and terrified have unblocked, gotten brave, tossed out the apologies, and stood stronger – sometimes after just one session. This isn’t about grammar, spelling, trying to impress others with your fabulous prose, or writing for publication – it’s about conversations with yourself; it’s about exploration and understanding, and there’s no need to pretty it up and load expectation on top of expectation.
Seriously, I’ve got you covered. You can do it; I’ve yet to meet a woman who hasn’t been able to get flowing with this process.
You can share your writing in the group – or not. The choice is up you.
Members are given a set of guidelines for participation that I’ve honed since I began teaching. They’re designed to ensure that all participants feel safe, comfortable, and encouraged, and that their writing/sharing is treated with respect and compassion.
So again, you don’t have to share your writing, and there will be no pressure to do so, but I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ll want to at some point.
Here’s the thing: it can, and it probably will. But not directly.
Unwritten is about process, not product.
If we were about product, then the product would be you – your heart, spirit, sass, energy, and direction.
But that’s probably not what you were thinking. If you are looking for accountability and support to get the next couple chapters of your book done, or you’re looking to produce some solid web content, this isn’t the program for you.
(i’d be happy to talk to you about doing some of that one-on-one though. if you have any question, get in touch: deb [at] debcooperman [dot] com.)
If you think self care, personal growth, and your overall well-being and well-roundedness are an essential part of being a strong, balanced business owner, then, yeah, it totally can help.
But if you’re looking for a program that will help you outline your blog content for the next six months, get your book proposal written, or map out your next launch sequence, then, nope, it ain’t Unwritten. (no, no, no, it ain’t unwritten babe. this ain’t the writer babe you’re looking for, babe.) (couldn’t resist.) (there’s a song for everything …)
I’m a professionally trained and certified coach, so that’s one reason. But really, there are a lot of us out there, so, you might be thinking: Big fargin deal.
I get it.
What’s different is that I’ve walked in your shoes. I’ve questioned choices, made big life changes, bravely stepped into the unknown (many, many times – left a marriage; moved across the country because i’d always wanted to; planned and prepped for my business while working a demanding “day job” …), and discovered that writing is an incredibly valuable tool for all of this. I’ve worked with loads of women who have peeled layer after layer of old stories and beliefs that have been weighing them down for too. damn. long. Women who don’t want to find themselves 10 years on saying: “if only” … and “what if?”
I want to show you that you can have that too.
I want you to get – really get in your bones – that what you want matters. That your light should not be dimmed. And I really (really, really) want you to get out there and unapologetically live your one wild and precious life … cause it’s the only one you’ve got.
And one of the ways you can start the process of discovery is through a writing practice.
You can totally do the program if you can’t make the calls.
AND, the calls are going to be awesome, so if there’s any way to get there for them, do.
They’re going to be a place for you to connect in real-time with me, and your fellow participants. We’ll dig deeper into conversations that are simmering in the Facebook group, and lend each other support and encouragement. That’s pretty damn fab.
However, if you can’t make the calls at all (like: you live in london and you’ll be asleep when we meet), but the idea of joining this program resonates with you, please don’t let the fact that you won’t be able to be live on the calls stop you. You can get a LOT out of the work without being on the calls. I’ll be recording them too, so you can catch up on what you missed by listening in after … and if you want to add something/ask a question/get clarification on what you heard on a call, bring it to the community online.
If you’re read this and you’re still unsure about whether it will work for you or not … shoot me an email and we’ll hop on the phone for a quick chat. deb [at] debcooperman [dot] com.
If you’re doing therapy, a writing practice can be a HUGE help in moving that work forward. And while Unwritten and my other programs are definitely not therapy, they can be hugely therapeutic. You’ll gain all sorts of new perspectives about yourself, and it’s likely you’ll expand your compassion and inner strength muscles too. (no kidding. it’s really kinda magic like that.)
But again: not therapy.
It would be wise to tell your therapist that you’re starting to explore writing practice, and you may want to share some of the insights you’re getting through your work in the group. But rather than conflict with it, this practice can be a great support for what you’re doing in therapy.
Want some back-up on that? Check out these articles …
If you’re nervous that someone might find and read your stuff, you can take that as an opportunity to discuss privacy issues with the people in question. 🙂
If that’s not feasible for some reason*, you could put your writing it in a sealed box, take photos of it on your phone and store it in a password protected vault, or buy an inexpensive locker to keep in the back of your closet, basement, or attic. If you’re not writing by hand, there are a number of ways for you to password protect your writing online or right on your computer.
*… and if you don’t trust the people you surround yourself with to respect your privacy, that might be something to look into, don’t you think?
I’ve put a LOT of thought, heart, and energy into my work because I want my peeps to get mega-value from it.
However, if you’ve been on the calls, and participated in the exercises in the FB group, and you’re not happy with the program, drop me a line before the end of the 10th day of the program – and I’ll refund your money. Seriously. No questions asked.
Not a fan of the book ‘o’ face? I get it. While there are virtual community platforms out there, after surveying of some women in my community, it seems that Facebook is the place where most of them gather, so that’s where we’ll be – at least for now.
If you want to be part of the Facebook group, you’ll need a computer, tablet, or smart phone (see the FAQ: ‘Do I need to be on Facebook to participate?’ for more on that). Our calls will be on a video conference system, which you can join via smart phone, tablet, or computer.
You can also connect via phone, but your ability to interact on the calls will be impacted because you won’t be able to participate in the chat-box that takes place through the video platform. So if you can connect via video, your experience will be better. (if you’re self-conscious about writing while “on camera,” you can turn the camera off while you write; fyi.)
This depends on how deeply you want to dive in with the work, and yourself.
A big part of writing practice is about making yourself a priority – putting yourself at the top of your to-do list – and you want to do that don’t you? I mean, this is it; this is life – the one you get* … so finding about a half-hour every day (and more if you can) is a good place to start.
(Yes, I did just quote the One Day at a Time theme song.)
as you wish
Want more individualized attention than a group program provides, check out my current one-on-one offering here.