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inspiration, insights, and tools help you write your way free
Stop saying you should stop complaining
If you compare your life to others as a way to feel better, or to force a “reality check”, you’re (in essence) attempting to convince yourself that your feelings don’t matter. (Don’t do that.)
Everything DOESN’T happen for a reason
Things do NOT happen for a reason. Things happen, and we try to make meaning out of them. But there is absolutely no cosmic plan behind the difficult things that happen to us.
Writing to a life beyond cliches
I’ll bet you’ve heard Mary Oliver’s poem The Summer Day – or at least the iconic final line: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?” and felt a longing to live that way. But are you …?
Apologies, guts, and stories
I realized that the only way the women in my workshops might stop apologizing, minimizing, and doubting their stories, experiences, and worth was to hold a mirror up to it.
When “not today” becomes “today”
The devil is the voice in your head that whispers: Yeah, you know you have to quit smoking, drinking (or some other behavior that enslaves your spirit …)… and you will … of course you will. But, the devil will say: not today.
Writing practice – the soy sauce of personal growth
Writing practice is a secret sauce – the perfect addition to any examined life. It’s kind of like soy sauce at a Chinese food restaurant; it enhances every bit of deliciousness it touches. Writing’s the same.